- No two deployments are the same: Be sure you have an idea of what their deployment will be like. Will they be on a base, or in the field most of the time? If this is not his first deployment, he will probably be able to offer a lot of details. This is important because if he will not have access to a computer at anytime, an iTunes gift card won’t do much good.
- Think logically: You don’t want to give him anything too nice because it will just get cruddy. And you don’t want to get him something too big because he has to lug it over there. Be sensitive to these facts and if you’re in doubt whether or not a gift is appropriate, just tell him. He will just think you’re especially thoughtful for asking.
- Gift suggestions:
- Phone card (can’t get enough of these)
- iTunes card
- Twin air mattress (he can use in the field or put on a cot for added comfort)
- Travel pillow (the flight over there is nasty)
- A few paperback books and magazines if he’s a reader.
- PSP (per my husband, this is the #1 deployment extravagance)
- Small photo album.
- Digital photo key chain (I found a great one for my husband at Brookstone)
- If he’s religious, a St. Christopher medal or charm
- Noise canceling headphones (there are more affordable alternatives than Bose offers nowadays)
- If you are still stuck but wanted to be creative, you could give him a coupon like, “This entitles you to 5 care packages packed with goodies from yours truly!
I really struggled with the going away gesture myself. I think what is most important is letting your loved one know you are supportive while they are away – send a postcard, email or care package once in a while to let them know you are thinking of them.